Understand That This is the First in a Series of Conversations About Sex
That first talk is just the number one in the series so don’t breathe a sigh of eternal relief. At 9 his understanding is much different from at 13 and 18. You have to watch, listen and correct. You’ll constantly but periodically have to do this to instill values and most importantly, build trust. Their most sensitive issues won’t come to us if they can’t trust us.
Most importantly, I told my boy it wasn’t his duty to share this information with his friends and classmates, that’s the responsibility of their parents, and you don’t want them to come back dissuaded about what you took time persuading them on.
When I was done, I hugged him and kissed him on his forehead, wanting to hold him there forever as if to prevent him from growing up, but like you know, that’s impossible. Though I’m glad I equipped him.